To hold a grudge
Meaning
To maintain a feeling of resentment or ill will towards someone for a past offense, refusing to forgive or forget.
Origin
The core of 'grudge' comes from the Old French 'grugier' or 'grouchier,' which originally meant to grumble or murmur with discontent. This was the quiet, internal complaint of someone displeased, not loudly voiced but deeply felt. Over time, this low murmur of dissatisfaction hardened into the sustained feeling of ill will we understand as a 'grudge.' The act of 'holding' it then completes the picture, signifying a deliberate, almost protective grip on that resentment. It is not a fleeting anger, but a stored bitterness, kept close and not easily relinquished, echoing that ancient sense of an internal, unvoiced complaint that has taken root within.
Examples
- Even after all these years, Sarah continues to hold a grudge against her sister for borrowing her dress without asking.
- It's unhealthy to hold a grudge; sometimes it's better for your peace of mind to forgive and move on.